It’s day 3 of Path and I am feeling a lot lighter. Last night I spoke to Gwydion about some of my concerns and I gained a great deal of ease through his response. I think what I really learned is key to this Pentacle of Community. I suspect that in the past I may have sat with my misgivings and allowed them to bubble and even ruin my experience. Everything I have learned about group work has taught me to speak up and to bring myself forward. That the teachings of this pentacle support and encourage this through well thought out techniques and models has been demonstrated in how Gwydion responded to my concerns. I feel safer and more held within the container having had my concerns expressed and responded to.
The pentacle point of Common Good was one of the primary teachings for today and we unpacked and played with 3 major techniques that we use in Reclaiming to support the good of all of us. The first of these is Consensus Decision Making. As we looked at this tool a lot of memories flooded back to me because In the 80s I was involved in a housing co-op for about 5 years, working from its inception to planning, lobbying, gaining funding and so on. We used the Consensus model and all trained in it to use it as best practice. I clearly remembered big long meetings on sticky points of difference facilitated by experienced practitioners. The feeling of nursing a community through big differences of opinion and out the other side to consensus was deepening for us as a community. It was beautiful to have this memory provoked and I am planning to look for classes on Consensus Decision Making as it was once a real passion for me.
We also explored the Principles of Unity and I really get how for Reclaiming witches this is a sacred text. The PoU is a remarkable document and one that I have on my altar to constantly remind me of the deep thought gone into this tradition.
In order to examine another aspect of the point of Common Good we played with some small group exercises using core concepts of Non Violent Communication. The practice allowed us to move from a story we currently had going on in our lives to seeing into what our need actually was. So, as I told a story about how my partner’s move to Alice Springs is affecting me, group members listened and then selected what needs they thought I might have. They chose security, trust and consideration and these all resonated with me. Getting down to these needs allowed me to feel much more deeply what is going on for me and to feel truly seen and heard.
We began the transition into the point of Power today with a role playing game called Werewolves. It is kind of like ‘Murder in the Dark’ but with a few more twists. It is amazing just how ruthless we can get to stay ‘in the game’! My fellow werewolf sold me out to the villagers to stay alive and there was nothing I could say to stop from being lynched. It was an incredible reflection of how easily voices are taken away when blame is laid or untruths are told, not dissimilar to how our society works at all.